It is now 2008, and the gaping wound is still there. For many, it still feels like the wound broke open yesterday. Through these years, many have been deeply exercised over matters which they have no control. I am one of them, along with many of my colleagues. The web became a forum for such a 'vexation of spirit' but after all is said and posted, the decisions still falls into the hands who could make a difference - our Primates, and especially, the Archbishop of Canterbury.

It is both a moral and pastoral responsibility to bring closure to a disciplinary issue for the sake of the flock. The nature, intensity and duration of the disciplinary response can be mitigated by various factors, but to fail to exercise them is a failure of pastoral leadership. Vicars of parishes know this only too well. There can be a lot of listening and pastoral understanding, but the continual viability of a community is dependent on the proper exercise of this moral and pastoral responsibility.

Dar es Salaam held the most promise. It was Archbishop of Canterbury and the Primates, speaking in one voice. Or at least, it appeared so initially. How has it been followed through? Kyrie Eleison, repeating the closing words of our dear Archbishop of Uganda's latest public address. We can't help but ask, "If that Statement did not do much, what will these WCG observations accomplish?"

We may need to retrace our steps - back to Dar Es Salaam - if there is any hope for healing.

Those who are quick to judge the Lambeth absentees need to know that these very same ones have worked tirelessly to heal the torn fabric these past five years. Leadership means sticking your necks out, being misunderstood and criticised, and this is the price which many of them have paid. Some have felt that they are now relegated to the category of those who 'are deeply exercised over matters which they have no control.' And so, they stayed away. For the record, even the Province of Southeast Asia is not fully represented. A bishop and assistant bishop chose to absent themselves to protest that 'all is not well and it cannot be business as usual.' After all, the 'impaired communion' SEA Province Statement still stands.

In this context, the Archbishop of Canterbury's Second Presidential Address is deeply disappointing. Once again, the crisis is seen as a family squabble. Whatever the background whispers may be and personal insight one may have on the Archbishop of Cantebury's real intentions (and I have deep admiration for his spiritual commitment, exemplary devotional life and theological wisdom), we can only respond to him based on his public communication and leadership actions.

In the earlier part of this year, I had the privilege of spending time in conversation with a clergy who was Vicar of one of the largest Episcopalian parishes on the West Coast. He had just left his Church recently, and the parting of ways amicably handled with his Bishop. I could sense he was a humble but honest man. He told me that he came to a point where 'enough was enough.' TEC has become a different religion and he recount those various Synod occasions where these signs were clearly exhibited and unashamedly. It came to a point where he needed to walked away and move on. There is only so much one can do (or take) in coping with things which are beyond one's control. Of what use the presidential address will be for him? How long can one keep listening and empathizing?

For the rest of us, it will not be that easy. We will need to continue to live with that tear (of the 2003 action) and tension (of relating to those of a 'different religion' - in Asia, we do this all the time being part of a minority religion...imagine having to face the same thing within the 'refuge' of the church!). It has to be managed. New relationships have to be formed (and they are forming), as the wounded body limp along, seeking to move on with the help of others.

Perhaps all is not doom and gloom. These new friendships and partnerships across the globe may well spell for many of us, a first-hand experience of one of the treasures of being in communion. Wounded as we may be, there can be joy in linking with those with whom we can say what we mean, and mean what we say, where our different cultures have no major bearing on our shared orthodoxy.

"I will build my church, and the gates of hell will not prevail against it." - Jesus Christ

---Canon Terry Wong is a priest in the Province of Southeast Asia and part of the Editorial Team for Global South Anglican Website